The Intention Behind Touch
Isabel laid on her stomach, enthralled by the touch of a new lover, Mateo. His hands glided down her back like water, as he continued to massage her. With each touch, Mateo enticed, energized, and awakened each part of Isabel. Although Isabel had been massaged by many men, there was something uniquely different about Mateo’s. “What could it be?” she pondered. Mateo continued to relax her body, not pushing the sensual play forwards or backward, just happy to be in the moment with her. Isabel smiled as she felt Mateo’s warm energy enter her body through his strong hands. It was then that she realized that his touch was giving, non-expectant, and selfless. She had been used to partners who would consistently take from her. Partner’s who would view her body as a sex object, instead of a sacred temple. Being the empathic woman that she was, Isabel was highly tuned into touch. At times, she would find herself recoiling from past partners. Subconsciously aware of another reaching out to her body in hopes to fulfill an unmet emotional need. Isabel cleared her mind and looked up at Mateo’s warm smile, happy to feel authenticity and love spreading from the tips of his fingers.
Through the power of touch, you can send intentional energy to another. When engaging in touch, there is a giver and a receiver. All touching falls underneath the spectrum of harmful to positive, and the difference between the variations is the intention behind it. In order to feel the intention behind another’s touch all you have to do is tap into your intuition. Even if another makes a nice gesture like a handshake, did it feel good to shake hands? Was it competitive? Was it gentle? A friend of mine dated a guy who was always physically leaning onto her. They would be standing next to each other, and I could see him put his arm on top of her shoulder, weighing her down. After a while, she confessed to me that he was extremely codependent and draining her energy. She couldn’t carry him any longer. I dated a guy who would always hold my hand, which was sweet right? Then the hand holding felt as if it was possessive, and at times when he felt threatened he would squeeze my hand extremely hard, almost as if he was scared I was going to leave. Oh how quickly sweet gestures can turn into possessive tendencies. Many times partners continue to make the romantic gestures, but the energy generated by it is low causing an intimacy blockage. Same thing with sex, if you’ve been experiencing a lack of connection, there may be something inhibiting you to receive fully or give.
What is your partner saying when he/she touches you? How does this make you feel? How did another react to your touch and what is that saying about the relationship?
Although it may be tedious to consistently be aware of the intentions behind touch. Once you can build it into to your day to day life, it is a sixth sensory tool that will help you become more aware of yourself and others. You can use it as a form or protection. You don’t want people dumping negative energy on you or vice versa. One simple tool to help is to fill in this blank statement.
When he/she touched me I felt _________.
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