Confidence Or Arrogance?
The Difference Between Arrogance and Confidence
After facing countless situations where I have felt ashamed of being confident about myself to others due to my fear of coming off as arrogant, I have decided to write and research about the difference between arrogance and confidence.
After all, who likes to deal with arrogant people? Is it possible that they are confusing confidence with supreme superiority? Either way, I felt it would be beneficial to contrast and compare the two.
What is Arrogance?
Those who are arrogant have a superiority complex, in other words, they feel they are more important or ranked higher than others. Little do they know, that this feeling is actually covering up a large insecurity of which consists of not being smart enough, not being talented enough, not being hot enough, JUST NOT BEING ENOUGH. They often compare themselves to others, in hopes that they can discover something about another that isn’t “perfect,” because deep down they don’t feel like they are anywhere close to “perfect.” It makes them feel better to tear other people down, but really they are ultimately tearing themselves down. Each egotistical word tears the Arrogants a little further apart from humanity, which leaves them feeling alone and isolated. It is extremely difficult to hold a conversation with an arrogant because
A. They won’t give you space to speak
B. Every conversation is a competition
C. They are not listening to you.
Lastly, those who are arrogant always feel the need to defend themselves. It feels as if they are always under attach and use arrogance as a defense maneuver.
What is Confidence?
Those who are confident believe strongly in themselves, yet they do not believe that they are higher or lower than anyone else. They know that everyone has their own unique talent and gifts to off the world. The Confidents are high-minded individuals who have a positive outlook on life, and deep authentic love for themselves and everyone else. The Confidents will rarely be seen or heard speaking badly about another person in order to make themselves feel better, because they have completed the internal emotional work, and have discovered that they are actually quite awesome. On the contrary, Confidents are often heard promoting and encouraging others towards their dreams, because they truly want to see them succeed. True Confidents are amazing listeners and will rarely interrupt another because they know when it is their turn, their voice will be heard. Confidents also feel safe to be authentic and vulnerable which deepens their connection to others.
Main Difference Between Confidence and Arrogance
Confidence originates from a place of love and abundance. While arrogance comes from a place of fear and lack. Trust me; others can easily tell which energy you are exuding. Can you?
Tips on How to Be More Confident
• Allow others to speak about themselves, and when they do speak…Actively Listen
• Avoid speaking badly about others
• When you speak ask yourself, “Are my words coming from a negative place or a place of love and positivity.”
• Increase awareness around the words you speak, and your intention behind them.
• See yourself with the eyes of love.
• Watch how many times you say the word “I.”
• Give recognition to others, and yourself.
• Smile you beautiful being!