Creating Space for Sacred Sex
It’s possible that taking space from sex may not spice up your love life if too much space has already been taken, if you haven’t been paying attention to it in the first place. Instead of taking more time away from sex, create space. Set a time and day to connect fully with your partner. Make sure to take into account your partner’s energy levels. For example, I am supremely tired at the end of the night, but during the day and morning, I am full of energy. So it would be beneficial to engage in a sacred sex session during the times when I can be most engaged.
What is a sacred sex session? It is intentional time set a side for you and your partner to love, nurture, and worship each other’s bodies.
For example, Layla and Allen, two career driven entrepreneurs spent most of their time together. They were always working on their individual projects. They’d sit next to each other, each with a cup of coffee, and laptops typing vigorously. Although they were kicking butt in their businesses, they however were slacking in the bedroom. By the time Layla and Allen would jump into bed together, one of them would be too exhausted, or they would do a quickie, and fall quickly asleep. Luckily, Layla and Allen had participated in a sexuality workshop recently and were able to catch these actions before they became a boring sex routine. They set a time during an afternoon when neither one had any meetings or lunches. They both agreed to plan a sexual offering for each other. The afternoon arrived, and Layla laid on the bed waiting for Allen. Allen entered from the bathroom and gently took Layla’s hand. He had prepared a bath where he would wash and pamper Layla. Layla countered with a full body massage which included massage oil dripped from a Karma Sutra Candle. They spent all afternoon connecting with each other’s sacral energy. Before they had sex, they completed a verbal check in with each other, highlighting things they appreciated about each other. They also meditated and allowed their energy to connect fully. It was much easier to hit the orgasmic state after they both committed to creating sacred space, and they were able to rebalance and recharge their sex life.
There are so many creative ways to create sacred sexual space. Take a second to brainstorm some ways to excite and honor your partner! At first, this may sound like a lot of effort or work, but that’s the thing, relationships are absolute work, and they call for both involved to stay engaged, creative, and active in the relationship, which includes the sex life.
Relationship Coach, and Master Healer of the Mind, Body, and Spirit.